While everyone loves their children, dealing with them after a divorce (especially if it's messy) can be hard. Trying to make sure your children aren't swallowed up by the same type of feeling you feel can leave a parent lost. However, Rosalind Sedacca—Divorce and Parenting Coach—has three tips for you to follow if you want to raise well-adjusted children during this tumultuous time.
Monitor your attitude As alluded to above, making sure your children see the best you is key to making them feel that your divorce isn't the end of their world. Children can sense when you're in a bad mood or in a "poor me" state of consciousness. Keep a good positive attitude on your face and in your posture, and that solid outlook will transfer over to your children.
Understand the power of perceptions Just as you should keep a good outlook for you children, you should keep it for yourself. If you look upon your divorce as a life experience to learn from, you will derive many benefits and value from the divorce, no matter how much pain is also involved. You'll also be better able to accept responsibility for the part you played in the process and be more willing to contemplate new ways to live your life in the future that will bring more positive results.
Look for the gift behind the challenge There are always lessons to be learned from painful experiences. If you perceive those lessons as "gifts" to you -- wisdom and opportunities you will never have otherwise experienced -- you can move on from your divorce a better, stronger, wiser person.
Three Keys to More Positive Parenting (and a Happier You) After Divorce (Huffington Post)