Divorces usually don't come from nowhere. Most times, there's a deep-seeded unhappiness with a relationship that has gotten the divorced to the point where they just can't deal with each other anymore. However, some spouses are so put-off by the idea of even approaching the other to ask for a divorce that they would rather live in fear or depression. We don't want you to do that.
Dr. Karen Finn, writing for YourTango.com, writes about the ways that people don't want the confrontation that comes with a divorce, even going so far as to sleep with the other to make up for asking. So she came up with some tips we believe work in help you ask if that divorce you're afraid to.
The Friend Factor Many divorcees, when planning their split, begin to imagine how the relationship will be their soon-to-be ex-spouse from the moment the seed is planted in their heads. However, in divorces where they've fallen out of love, but still very much friends, the one who wants a divorce feels bad and wants to be nice to the other. This prevents them from asking. Dr. Finn says that you have to be firm and realize that by trying to be nice, you're doing both a disservice. Them, by continuing a marriage that doesn't feel right for you anymore; and you because of your vision of leaving the relationship.
Have a plan This helps you out by leaving many open-ended questions already answered. Where will you live? Where will you get your money. It's easier to leave a relationship when you don't feel the other person has any type of hold over you.
Want a Divorce? Stop the Emotional Yo-Yo and Be Clear About It (Psych Central)
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