When you’re trudging through the process of a divorce, getting out
of bed and going to work can seem like a daunting task. Most people experience
intense feelings of sadness, depression, loneliness and fear which can
be debilitating. These feelings can affect your ability to focus and have
the energy you need to do your job. The key to surviving your workday
while going through a divorce is to have a plan. Thankfully, our
Pasadena divorce attorney
has shared a few tips for men and women working through their divorce
continue reading from more information.
Clear Your Desk, Clear Your Mind
When the tendrils of depression begin to pull at you, your workspace can
become cluttered and chaotic, much like your headspace. If you have feelings
of anxiety or sadness, it is important you have a space that is organized
and peaceful in order for you to work productively. Is your desk decorated
with family snaps shots of you and your ex on vacation? Are there family
portraits from past holidays hung on your walls? If so, take these down.
These photos could set off emotions that could interfere with your ability
to work. Take an afternoon to redecorate your workplace, make it an atmosphere
Prepare a Statement
Your coworkers are likely to notice something is wrong. In order to prevent
yourself from sharing too much, prepare what you are going to say when
your coworkers ask you what is wrong. You could say something like:
- “Thank you for your concern, I’ll be alright. I’m just
going through some personal issues right now.”
- “I’m just going through something personal. I appreciate your
concern, but I’ll be fine.”
Acknowledge your appreciation for their concern, but let them know you
are not interested in sharing more information.
Block Incoming Divorce Messages
Only read divorce related messages from your lawyer after business hours.
Opening emails with information regarding your case could potentially
ruin your day. Consider creating a separate folder to filter your Pasadena
divorce lawyer’s email into so you won’t be tempted to open
them at work based on the subject and preview line.
For many people, keeping busy during a time of great emotional turmoil
can help them keep their mind from focusing on the thing bothering them
and continue the tasks they need to accomplish. While we certainly do
not recommend you always keep busy (you need to give yourself time to
process the divorce), keeping busy at work to get you through the day
is recommended. Take on more tasks or consider training in a new area
to keep your mind off the divorce.
Put Your Cell Phone Away
During business hours, try to put your cell phone in a drawer or turn it
on silent to avoid texts from friends, family, and your spouse. While
many of your friends and family may be sending concerned messages, texting
about your divorce during the workday could trigger emotions that may
make it difficult for you to concentrate on your work. Some cell phones
have “Do Not Disturb” modes which prevent your phone from
even vibrating or indicating a text message was received. Perhaps setting
your phone to this mode during business hours could help keep your friends
and family from disrupting your day.
Find Quick Mood Boosters
Explore different options that could help you get a quick mood boost when
you need it. For example, YouTube and Facebook have a multitude of cute
animal videos that could bring a smile to anyone’s face. If that
isn’t an option, make a playlist of music that you know will cheer you up.
If you are feeling stressed, walk away from your desk and get some fresh
air for 10 minutes. Grab a cup of coffee at the local café or head
to your car for a few minutes to shut your eyes. Find a place where you
can de-stress and where you feel safe.
Contact the Graves Law Firm
If you are unsatisfied with your divorce lawyer, or you are simply looking
for a compassionate, down-to-earth, affordable attorney who is willing to work
with you, look no further than
The Graves Law Firm.
We proudly serve clients throughout Los Angeles County. ---Call to schedule your free case evaluation.