Waiting around could cost you
The divorce game can become a very sneaky one if it gets out of hand. That is why my advice to you is that if you believe your marriage is heading toward one, hire us or any other lawyer to represent you the first moment you can. That's because if you don't, your soon-to-be-ex-spouse will, even before they file their divorce papers.
I'm sure you're thinking to yourself, "Of course you're telling us to get a divorce lawyer ASAP – you want to scare us into going with you!" Well, that's not why I'm telling you this. Of course I would love to represent you, but the real reason this deserves a whole post is the other way of your thinking: ethics. If, as I mentioned above, your ex decides to "try out" different lawyers, there isn't a maximum number he can go to for a consultation. And thanks to the ethics code, that could put you in a pickle.
If your ex goes on a consulting spree, that means those lawyers are bound by the ethics code to deny even letting you consult with them thanks to the idea of "conflicting out." This means that when they meet, and information is exchanged – information that could be used against you – they are made to keep that info confidential. Because of the meeting, "there is a significant risk that the representation ... will be materially limited by the lawyer's responsibilities to another client, a former client or a third person..."
No matter where you live, if this happens ten times, then those are ten lawyers you are not able to ask to fight for you. Don't let the pool dilute before you get fair representation. Hire a divorce lawyer to help you before it's too late and you can't.