Tips for moms and dads whose children are talking taking a split
For many parents, watching their child walk down the aisle is one of the more memorable moments of their lives. That's why it's so hard for them when they hear their one-time baby bring up the dreaded "D" word: divorce. For those parents, flashbacks of family get togethers mingle with thoughts of future interactions with someone they usually got to love and bring into their home. If children are involved, the situation could escalate considering how much a grandparent wants to see their grandchild. If you're in that situation, here are a few tips to help you through those tough talks with your kids.
Talk directly to your child Now isn't the time to lecture, it's time to listen. Talk to them in the same reassuring tone and with the same actions you used when they were younger. We don't view it as condescension—we see a parent being as supportive as they can.
Offer help with counseling and the kids If you are able to capture your son or daughter's confidence in the matter, offer to help find and/or pay for counseling. If they take you up on the offer, then tell them you'll take the kids for the week, or even more if possible. Many divorces can be helped with counseling and time to talk things out. Being the impetus of that will feel amazing.
It's not a one-way street If you feel comfortable doing so, make sure that your child-in-law knows that you hope the issues can be resolved, and that you're there for them if they need help.
However… if your child is in a situation where they are dealing with any type of abuse, be it sexual, verbal or physical, make sure you create a safe haven for them (and any children) to come home to.