Tips for recently separated men to hit it big on the singles scene
Dating after years of being married can be hard. Even if you've been off the market for only five years, coming out of a marriage will make you different than other men on the scene. Between children or the idea many women have of having to replace your recently separated other half, it may be difficult to navigate the world of dating in 2012. Heck, last time you were single, you may have not even had online dating as an option.
Well, we're here to help dads on the rebound and on the dating scene. Follow the following tips to help you possibly find the new Miss Right.
Ex-Wife? What Ex-Wife? You are embarking on a new voyage in life. Leave that old life at the port, especially when you're talking to a potential love interest for the first time. Also, wait for her to bring up your divorce, and answer as simply as possibly. You don't want her to think you're still hung up on your old life, or will gab on incessantly about how great your ex-wife or old house was.
Put the phone down Text messaging may have been new or even not invented when you first got married. Well, we'll be the first to tell you that over-texting or texting too soon could be an automatic turn off. Remember, you've left a long-term relationship (or at least commitment), and any type of red flag could put you in her dog house. An over-texter could be needy or command constant attention. Wait for her to come to you—build that mystery up!
Remember, your kids come first If you're looking for someone who respects who you are, don't ditch your kids at the first sign of a date. Especially in the early stages, explain that your weekends with the kids are important to you (which, of course, isn't a lie… right?), and if she can reschedule for another time. She will see commitment and responsibility are not issues for you.
Impress her Actions speak louder than words, so if you want to make sure there's a next date, it's very simple. Keep your plans and don't bail at the last second (of course, unless it's a real emergency); let her talk during your conversation and don't monopolize the date with your history, recent or otherwise; and tip well.
Handle those three things well and you should be able to get a return visit and maybe get you on the road to another relationship.