For many people, the pain of divorce never goes away. They sign the paperwork,
take their share in the settlement and attempt to live the life they had
before they dedicated years to a single other person — but for them,
it never goes that way. There’s always something that will remind
them of the other person. It’s just the reality of divorce for some.
Writing for The Huffington Post, novelist Danielle Porter (who writes
under the pseudonym Juliette Sobanet) discusses the hurt and depression
she still feels two years after her marriage. Her husband leaving, who
was her only present family, left a huge void in her life. So she searched
for the answers and would end up writing a memoir, Meet Me in Paris, where
she discusses things like a Divorce Landmine — finding something
that reminds her of her ex-husband that sends her into a deep depression.
Her main trouble is trying to get her friends to understand without bringing
them down into the depths she feels when she hits one of those landmines.
She tried to explain, but could only write a poem to full describe how
she felt. Here is an excerpt:
The Next Time
The next time a friend tells you she is getting a divorce
Act as if she has just told you that the person she has loved for sunrises
and sunsets, for starry nights and stormy skies and every moment in between...Act
as if she has just told you that this person has died...
Because that is what has happened.
The next time a friend tells you she is getting a divorce
Act as if she has just told you that the person who has loved her at her
best and at her worst, who has been her everything for too many days to
count...Act as if she has just told you that this person has died...
Because that is what has happened.
For more:
Two Years Post-Divorce and Still Grieving: How to Help Your Friends Understand (HuffPo)
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