Demetria Graves | July 15, 2025 | Divorce
Facing false allegations in a Pasadena court is frustrating. It can also be incredibly damaging to your divorce or child custody case. The way you handle the false accusations can help you achieve the outcome you desire.
Here are five things to remember if someone is making up things about you in court:
1. Stay Calm and Maintain Your Composure
Losing your temper and making angry outbursts does not help your case. Instead, keep yourself composed and take notes. You may want to make bullet points of the false statements so that you can begin working on a response.
It can also be helpful to think about why your spouse or another person is lying about you. Perhaps your spouse wants sole custody of the kids or a greater share of the marital property. Understanding the reason why someone is lying might assist a divorce attorney in developing a strategy to fight the allegations.
2. Work with an Experienced Lawyer
If you are facing false allegations in Pasadena court, contact an experienced family law attorney. A lawyer can explain the best way to fight them.
It can be difficult to think clearly and remain calm when someone is lying about you. Working with a skilled attorney ensures you have someone to remind you of the end goal and view the case from a legal perspective.
3. Gather Evidence
Begin collecting evidence to refute the false allegations in court.
Depending on the type of family court case and the allegations, evidence may include:
- Witness statements from family, friends, and other individuals with knowledge of the matter
- Text messages, emails, and other forms of communication
- Social media posts and online activity
- Receipts
- Financial records, including bank statements, credit card bills, etc.
- Photographs and videos
- Medical records and documents
Your attorney will explain other evidence that you may need to gather to support a strong defense to the false allegations. A strong counterargument can help prove that the other person is lying.
4. Avoid Contact
Telling the person lying about you what you think of them may be tempting. However, they could twist your words and the situation to support their false accusations.
If you must have contact with your spouse because you are co-parenting your children, things to remember include:
- Keep calm during all conversations and interactions.
- Try to communicate in writing, such as emails and texts.
- Avoid discussing the case or the allegations.
- If you must meet in person, do so in a neutral location with a neutral witness.
Keeping your distance from the person’s relatives and friends is also wise. You do not want anything you say to them to be misinterpreted or give them a chance to say that you said or did something that supports the false accusations.
5. Document Everything
When you are accused of something you did not do, everything matters. Begin a file to keep records, documents, and information related to your case.
Examples of things to document include, but are not limited to:
- Notes from conversations or encounters with the person, including dates and times
- Screenshots of social media posts, text messages, and phone logs
- Logs of visitation with your children, including dates and activities with your children
- Receipts, parking passes, and other proof that you were somewhere else at the time you were accused of doing something
Keeping organized files helps you locate information and documents quickly. It also prevents you from losing potential evidence that could clear your name.
Contact Our Pasadena Family Law Lawyers at The Graves Law Firm for Legal Help
There are many reasons why someone may lie about you in court. Fighting false accusations in court is easier when you have a seasoned Pasadena family law attorney on your side. Call The Graves Law Firm to learn more.
For more information, please contact our experienced family law attorneys at The Graves Law Firm for a consultation today. We’ll be happy to assist you.
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